BOOK REVIEW: Date Your Wife: A Husband’s Guide by Justin Buzzard (Crossway Books)
“The most rebellious, countercultural thing you can do in our culture is to be happily married until death do you part,” states Justin Buzzard in his book Date Your Wife. Now, this might be a bit of hyperbole, but I don’t think he’s too far off.
Date Your Wife is a quick read that reminds us, as husbands, to (you guessed it) date your wife. Buzzard explores the biblical definition of manhood, and quite bluntly tells us husbands: You’re the man. If your marriage stinks, it’s your own fault.
Men, being goal-oriented, often work hard to court their wives, but once married, men sometimes check that goal off as accomplished and move on to other goals, forgetting that marriage is a life-long endeavor.
With this, Buzzard focuses on how all marriages must be Christ-centered. As anyone who has been married for any amount of time can tell you, without a strong understanding of grace, no marriage can survive.
Date Your Wife is a quick, light read. The tone is humorous but blunt. Just what a man needs. Each short chapter ends with “Take Action” tips, and at the end of the book are 100 recommendations on how to date your wife.
Being steeped in books on theology for seminary, I chose this complimentary ebook from Crossway’s Beyond the Page program as something lighter to read. I have also just passed my six-year wedding anniversary. And though after six years (and no kids), my wife and I still date plenty, Date Your Wife is a helpful reminder to never forget to treat my wife like the special woman God gave me.
Also, even if none of the “tips” catch you, the book gets your brain working, thinking of ways to treat your special woman in special ways.
For men who have been married for much longer than me, who have children, who have high-pressure jobs and many other distractions, Date Your Wife may be the kick in the butt you need. Marriage is a beautiful gift from God, and if we neglect it, it’s nobody’s fault but our own.